this is a stupid one, i guess, but it keeps coming up.
i wish i had friends my own age. i guess it would be ok to have friends my body's age instead, at least kind of, but i really wish i had friends my own age.
it's even harder, because once i stupidly allowed myself to think that out loud, the little kids caught on, and most of THEM want friends their own ages, too.
and there's just no practical way to do it. i mean, can't go out with this adult body and act like a kid with people our actual ages. because that would be creepy. and i don't know what else to do.
i think things would be better if there were someone irl who i could hang out with and do things with. plus, then i'd have somewhere to go when i needed to go out of the house, so i wouldn't be wandering around aimlessly.
i know i have friends. i just don't have any friends my age, and sometimes that sucks.
and the kids are still upset that even if they do get to have their birthday party one of these days, it will only be with grown ups.
i suppose it would be easier if this system had a host who was all embarrassed about having younger parts. then we'd kind of get to accept that we can't be out, ever, or something. but this system, so far as anyone can tell, doesn't HAVE a host. so that's not happening. and even if it did, i think the adults have built their identities around being okay with "kid stuff" on its own merits. but even so, i haven't figured out a way that we could have friends our own ages irl. sigh.
Thursday, October 11, 2007
and another thing
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The solution we found for this problem is to have another multi for a friend in real life. We do not get to see each other very often...it's working out to be 2-3 times a year in person, but we are able to "hang-out" online. It's not easy to find another multi for a 3d friend, and even harder to find a system that is compatible (to say it nicely). We had a multi friend that was local and things got progressively more and more difficult until we had to end the friendship...it just was not working well. I don't know where you are located, but I know of some "meetings" that take place on the east coast...several mutlis get together for a weekend. a friendship could be nurtured that way. I have never attended because I live on the west coast, but I have heard from those that have gone that they have a very good time.
Okay...I have no idea if any of that helps or even makes sense! Done rambling now. I am linking your blog on mine.
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Just realized I was assuming you are in the United States! If you are not I will clarify...I was referring to the east and west coasts of the USA.
hey, thanks for commenting! i don't know if i've posted a comment to your blog yet, but i discovered it last week, and it's really speaking to me. i'll post once i've caught up to the present (sure, i *could* read current entries first, but...)
i do go to a support group for people with DID, but it's once a month, and i've only been going for a little while, so while there are a couple of prospects, it's still something a ways in the future (and it's one of those groups where the the people are so careful about boundaries that it feels really intrusive to initiate any outside contact).
but it's still a possibility for the future.
and, yes, i'm in the US, and on the east coast.
i'll link to your blog as well. i had been planning on checking with you about it, but now it's reciprocal. ;P
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